Meeting George Harrison & Baby Rod Stewart - (A·B·C·D) Podcast Episode 15

Remember the magic of growing up in a multilingual household? Join me and my special guest host, my mom Marla Najam, as we stroll down memory lane, navigating the linguistic labyrinth of our home, with English reigning supreme, giving way to Bengali during family visits. We also tackle my own attempts at learning Hindi in college - a journey filled with more than a few bumps in the road.

Delve into some of the more gripping aspects of cultural identity as we discuss my mom's life experiences in India and England and her encounters with celebrities like George Harrison. We also tackle the complicated subject of cultural appropriation, particularly as it pertains to practices like yoga and chakras in California. But it's not all serious talk; we delve into the world of Dungeons and Dragons and the joys of role-playing, drawing inspiration from South Asian mythology and even sharing a laugh about my usually reserved dad playing a barbarian character!

In the final part of our conversation, the lively debate continues as we discuss our favorite stories and argue over the ultimate food pairing - chutney vs ketchup. Our guest host, Omar, joins us and shares his favorite Omar story, his passion for cooking and foreign cuisines, and even a chance encounter with George Harrison. As we wrap up the episode, we reflect on storytelling's power to unite people, share a few laughs, and express heartfelt thanks to our sponsors and patrons. Tune in for an enriching conversation about cultural identity, language, and life's unexpected adventures!

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:06

Oh, hello everyone, Hello, hello, hello. How you doing, how's it going? Oh, i love those cheers sounds. Hello everyone, welcome to ABCD. I am your host for this week. Omanajam Sandeep is actually away currently, so we are joined by a very, very special guest host. But we'll get to that in a second. I'm just going to quickly give you the old intro here. Our show, abcd American-born Chetty Dacys, is a podcast within a live stream within our lives as two American-born Dacys. It's a pod duckin', if you will. This is for anyone out there who, like us, is navigating our cultural identities and just wants to chat about it. So usually on ABCD we have a pretty strict format that we like to stick to. We've got three acts. We're kind of throwing that out because we're joined by a wonderful guest host. This week It is my mom, marlon Nijam. Hello, hello.

Speaker 2 0:58

Woohoo.

Speaker 1 1:05

There we go, there we go, extended. Wow, dumb and Givvy the extended cheers. I've never heard that go that long.

Speaker 2 1:13

Oh, they're fired up for this.

Speaker 1 1:15

You saw it, i love it. Hello mom, how's it going?

Speaker 3 1:20

It's going wonderful, son. How's it going with you?

Speaker 1 1:23

Good, good, good good, I think. Sandeep, unfortunately, but our loss? there is a huge gain because we have you this week to join us and talk about some fun stuff.

Speaker 3 1:35

Well, i wish Sandeep was there, because I have a thing about the chutney recipe. Yeah, so maybe we can hook up another time and go over the chutney recipe, perfect, perfect.

Speaker 1 1:53

We'll hop into a bunch of this versus that in a little bit, but really quick, we're going to talk about our sponsors. We have two sponsors, that's right. We've got one sponsor, daisy Quest, which is an actual play TTRPG set in a South Asian mythology inspired universe built by star GM Jasmine, the Bronze Gole Buller, with a stellar cast that includes Koko Role, darling on Jalebi, mamani, dimension 20 Darling, rika Shankar, and two more darlings, that's right, sandeep and Little Old Me. For more info, you can get our mailing list. Hit us up at daisyquestcom or click the link in our show notes. Thank you so much, sean, for making those show notes happen for us. And our second sponsor it's really special this week We've got a great sponsor.

Speaker 1 2:35

This is probably my favorite sponsor we've ever had for the show. It's you, that's right. We have patreons that keep the lights on and Sandeep is not here to be singing the names at the end. So maybe my mom and I will try to do that together. We'll see what happens, but head over to patreoncom, slash effinfunny and join in the joy. So we are now going to talk about a whole bunch of stuff. I've got a list of things to discuss with you mother, but also I don't refer to you as mother. This is just a bit. We don't call each other that. We're not all gray gardens when it comes to this. I call you usually what Like mom, right.

Speaker 3 3:12

Yes.

Speaker 1 3:13

Yeah, yeah. When we were growing up, did you ever want to raise us with more Desi, because we're Bengali on your side of the family? Did you ever want us to refer to you with any Bangla, or were you like, we'll just do this with English?

Speaker 3 3:29

No, you guys used to call me mama, because the one time you say ma, which would be the special way of saying it. I probably might have heard it.

Speaker 1 3:41

You didn't hear it, so you think that we were like, oh, that didn't work, we'll move on to the next option.

Speaker 3 3:50

We did it twice. It's like Vincent Price. Vincent Price, you can usually watch Sesame Street.

Speaker 1 3:58

Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So the reason that we didn't speak a lot of Bengali in the house was because the ones didn't. We didn't get positive feedback. So growing up we did. There were words in the house that we didn't know. I've got two younger siblings for context. Didn't know were like Desi words like cello, for example, which means like come here quick. Did you want us to grow up with a mixture of language, or was that just easier to say than come over here?

Speaker 3 4:33

Oh my Lord, how quickly you forget that your father doesn't speak Bengali.

Speaker 1 4:39

Okay, So it's dad's fault. Came on you.

Speaker 3 4:45

So I'm reminding you that your father actually does not speak Bengali and I thought it was unfair for me to have private conversations with you guys And he got to miss all the things that I was saying to you guys. Some country is some not so complimentary, so yeah, so we stuck to English because he was raised in UK And his parents kind of let him master the English language only because it was easier in the neighborhood to get along and not get beat up.

Speaker 1 5:19

Right, okay, so you kept it open. So it was just like everyone kind of shares the same language. Yeah.

Speaker 3 5:26

But then, when you went to visit your mom, who is my brother, Yeah, who's also named? Sandeep. Yes, His name is also Sandeep And he says hi. By the way They we spoke Bengali from. You know, get go from being picked up at a airport or arriving at their home till the goodbye is when you would bend down, touch their feet and say goodbye and they would bless you And we'd be like until next time. you know, adios, because we are Californians.

Speaker 1 5:57

I see, okay, so a trilingual household Wonderful, great, yeah I, because when I went to college I tried to learn Hindi and it was tough and I was just like I. Probably I'm just going to do this in a domestic setting. It's a lot easier than going through an academic course for it.

Speaker 3 6:14

Yeah, it was very complex because you had taken Spanish, the Portuguese and all those other languages that were happening at your school community and your middle brother, amir, had decided to take up Japanese.

Speaker 1 6:31

And he was yes. Both of my younger siblings speak Japanese.

Speaker 3 6:35

Yeah fluently and very well. And you are amazing because they used you as the sample, the sample test for international baccalaureate that you studied at high school.

Speaker 2 6:50

Oh yeah.

Speaker 3 6:52

Remember they used to do an.

Speaker 1 6:53

Well, that's the idea of that. The idea that was it was part of a program called lowering the bar, So it was when you base your standard off of somebody's just clearing it, you know it's. it was a no child left behind thing.

Speaker 3 7:07

But that was not what Mr De Silva told me, because I he's retired, since I'm not in touch with him, but I could go look him now and for an explanation. So the explanation he gave me was that you spoke so well and I would have expected you not less from you, because we are desi people and we expect the best from our children. Forget that So. So what he said to me was that you are voted amongst your peers as the sample person, because the inspector, who come from some European country, from another IB school, would would want your responses for good 20 minutes and they would take it as a sample of the standard of that class.

Speaker 3 7:54

So you're telling me they didn't pay you, the kids didn't pay you anything, or you didn't get a beer or something on the side. How terrible.

Speaker 1 8:02

I'm so sorry that I didn't get a beer on the side for taking.

Speaker 3 8:06

Nothing. Do you enter the school where all sorts of stuff was going on? I know that.

Speaker 1 8:16

So we have a segment on this show called trucker check in right where we sort of check in on based off of a topic. But I want to go a little bit wider in a discussion with you before we kind of get to the main topic at hand, because I want to talk about TTRPGs with you, roland Dice, playing in a world of fantasy, and also how Indian culture affects that and how you've absorbed fantasy over time. But first, what is your? Okay? so I'm, i was born in the US, i was born here, so I'm an American born. They see, which is the idea of, like ABC the American born, Chattie daisies, you're like Daisy, daisy, like you're from India. You were, you were born in Delhi, right, no?

Speaker 3 9:04

I was not, and I just realized that I've been nodding my head so you can see me. So it's good that my picture is twitching that it looks.

Speaker 1 9:14

It looks like when you're in trouble. That's what it looks like. It's the specific nod of just like.

Cultural Identity and Celebrity Encounters

Speaker 3 9:24

Well, okay so yeah, that's what I was going to say. I am Bengali by my ethnicity.

Speaker 3 9:31

My parents are Bengali speaking people. My father, my grandparents, actually come from what is now Bangladesh and my mother is from what is India. So they were Bengalis, but they were from two different areas. Okay, so we actually lived when I was born. I was born in a town called Lucknow, which is in the United provinces. It's called now And it's predominantly Muslim population. Mostly Muslim people sort of live there because of the way the the conquerors went, you know, the Turku Mongols. They used to live there and stuff.

Speaker 2 10:13

Okay.

Speaker 3 10:14

So that's why my name actually is Malika, which is my proper name is Malika, and it means it's an Arabic or Urdu word, which means the queen. So now you get the attitude. I hope so, all right.

Speaker 2 10:30

I'm looking around for a crown for you.

Speaker 1 10:35

So okay. So, as someone from India, india, the here in, especially in California, there is a lot of like like when you go into a very crystal shop, there's a lot of like chakra stuff, there's a lot of like yoga stuff, there's a lot of Namaste. How do you feel about that, are you? are you like oh yeah, i check in with my chakras like all the time. I want to make sure they're all aligned. What's your relationship with that, or are you just like? this is?

Speaker 1 11:02

no, no, no no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no no, no no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 1 11:16

Like I'm thinking, this is something that needs to be fixed Again. I'm like, oh well, i think that I might not have been able to come with my hands, i've always been able to make sure that all this chakras will be paid, just the returns, and that all this is all done withuma 19ill, the greatness, and all this is all done with the scriptures, right? So incredible, the amazing ones. And then we all really kind of like I don't know if you're talking about like realize that, like it was likeとか's, about the mind of, like fuck autonomy and the sense of know, like that guy when we were at the half marathon who turned to us and went Namaste, like are you like, oh cool, our culture is like popular, or you like know this is being taken away from us, or Answer is very simple.

Speaker 3 11:52

If he was cute, if he was cute. It would have been okay if he was ugly. Hell, no.

Speaker 1 11:59

So okay, so it's really just a shallow basis thing. Okay, so you're just playing the field, got it Okay?

Speaker 3 12:08

Listen, listen, when you live in California, you have to be, you have to act like the Californian chicks. Okay, so I adopted that really good, just as much as I did when I had, when I went to live in England, and I, yes, and I had to. You know like people would ask me where did you learn to speak English? Well, duh, where do you think I came from? You know, that's why I speak English. So it's one of the things you know.

Speaker 1 12:35

So And that's a fun fact about you. You lived in England for a good portion of time before you came to the States. Did you have an English accent when you moved here?

Speaker 3 12:47

Yes, absolutely darling.

Speaker 1 12:49

And it was like that.

Speaker 3 12:52

Of course it was.

Speaker 1 12:55

I refuse to believe that that was how you used to go to the pub and talk.

Speaker 3 13:02

How would I ask for the beer?

Speaker 1 13:05

Give us, okay, give us a run through. Then, like you go, you go up to the Tavern Keep. Right, i'm an American, so I imagine that anything in the UK is, like you know, 1500s. So you go to the Tavern Keep, you go to order a drink. How would you do it with your accent?

Speaker 3 13:22

I would go up there and I would say, servant, get me a drink.

Speaker 1 13:27

There's no, there's no. You had to have them. You had to have had the most like common British accent. Like I can only picture you. I was like stop already. I can only picture you going up and like, oh, like that's I feel like that's the way you do it. Okay So, but you don't have, you don't like you know all the chakras off the top of your head.

Speaker 3 13:54

Before, before a drink or after a drink. Before, Oh yeah, before the chakras before the drink.

Speaker 1 14:01

Okay, Can you? could you like name them.

Speaker 3 14:04

No, why.

Speaker 1 14:08

Okay, like, like right now. If I asked you to like go through because my thing is here's, i guess, my thesis. I think that there are. There are definitely people in Los Angeles, where I live, that know so much more about this aspect of like they see culture than I do because, like they're, they're so much more like well, this is this chakra. This is this chakra. I've actually learned more by being on this show than I think I knew before you. Coming from India, is it a thing that came up a lot, or did you first start hearing about this stuff and yoga and everything when you moved to the States?

Speaker 3 14:46

No, yoga came from home, so we knew all of that and chakras. but also, don't forget, i was a teenager during the whole hippie movement.

Speaker 1 14:55

Right right. So don't forget that I hung around with George Harrison, you did not hang out with George Harrison.

Speaker 3 15:08

All right, I was there at a concert with him. He sat in front.

Speaker 1 15:12

Were you at a concert with him or at his concert? Because those are two different things.

Speaker 3 15:17

No, i was OK. There was a concert of stop, you're confusing me now I'm an old woman. So there was a concert that I was invited to And I was told that it was going to be something I would really enjoy and people I would enjoy, and it was Alarakha's son, the tabla player, who I liked very much. And then they said and there might be somebody else you'd like. And I thought, oh OK, i'll give it a try, i don't care. So I went there and I saw two very nice looking guys I was not single at that time, so I did not overplay it And then, when I was introduced, i just did the Namaste thing, because everybody thinks that's the only way to greet in India, which is very wrong, because we all have our own, like you, don't? you don't go to a Sikh person and say you know, namaste, what's your chakra? You know. You go there and you say sasekata, jithisekita people.

Speaker 3 16:19

Yeah because I speak five Indian languages. OK, so yeah, it's, you go and greet people in an appropriate way. So this chakra thing is I think it's a very California thing.

Speaker 1 16:31

OK, we do So wait, hold on, hold on, before we move on. though. you met George Harrison, like did you meet him in person? OK, omar.

Speaker 3 16:48

I'm feeling sad right now that it's such an important aspect of my life and you are just playing it down.

Speaker 1 16:59

I mean I'm asking did you meet George Like, like, like you can see, like I saw the Pixies in concert? I've never met the Pixies. Did you meet George Harrison there that night?

Speaker 3 17:10

Like I said, is that meeting or just sitting next to him and just being polite and, you know, just exchanging pleasantries?

Speaker 1 17:19

Did you know it was George Harrison at the time.

Speaker 3 17:24

Oh my God, Do you think I did all through my high school not knowing the rules?

Speaker 1 17:33

So what Am I learning this on? Twitch for the No excuse me.

Speaker 3 17:38

I'm switching very badly here. I can send myself OK, wait, really quickly. Are you going to now deny that I went to see you two?

Speaker 1 17:50

No, no, I was not going to deny that. Thank you. Ok, so really quickly, let's. Let's move on to our next topic.

Speaker 2 18:04

She might get the best chicken.

Speaker 1 18:08

Let's, let's do, let's call that the checker, checker. Honestly, i think there we go.

Speaker 3 18:17

So I can't even mention Rod Stewart at this point. I know we didn't show, you didn't meet Rod Stewart. Dude, I was three years in nursing school. What do you think I did? What does?

Speaker 1 18:28

that mean Did you, did you deliver Rod Stewart as a baby? Is that what you're trying to say?

Speaker 3 18:34

No, why would I? Oh God, you can come sit in your mind I would hit on a child.

Speaker 1 18:44

No, no, no, that's the additional detail that was not discussed earlier. That was a dishful thing. Did you meet Rod Stewart? Did you exchange words with Rod Stewart?

Speaker 3 18:55

And I'm not going to tell you that till I find out that if I'm getting paid for this show or not, or do I have to get a manager?

Role-Playing Games With South Asian Influence

Speaker 1 19:04

OK, so let's move on to our next segment. Let's I want to talk to you about tabletop role playing games, because we played Dungeons and Dragons for the first time together. Yes, yes, yes, was that your first time playing D&D?

Speaker 3 19:22

Yes, it was.

Speaker 1 19:25

And you decided on your. This is your first time playing D&D, your first time getting familiar with the system. So you played an artificer the easiest class to play, the most straightforward. Did you have a good time? Did you enjoy it?

Speaker 3 19:41

I had the most fantastic time because your dad made it so fun, I mean we were all here.

Speaker 1 19:48

As your GM, I also feel like there might have been a lot of it All the three brothers.

Speaker 3 19:52

you guys were pro at it, So that was all a miracle with us.

Speaker 1 19:56

No, maybe no, no, no, it was Yeah yeah, it was just others.

Speaker 3 19:59

Yeah, ok, so yeah, no, it was. it was a lot of fun. I mean, i've heard you guys talk about it and it was. it was a good thing And I, you know, i'm into drama and theater and stuff.

Speaker 2 20:11

So that was that was.

Speaker 1 20:14

So you enjoyed the role playing aspect of it. Like you like creating a character, playing the character.

Speaker 3 20:20

Yeah, who doesn't I? My name is Paradise.

Speaker 1 20:25

The character's name is Paradise. That's right, do you? what aspect of yourself do you feel like you brought to the character of Paradise?

Speaker 3 20:36

This is so sad. You know there's nothing about your mother and I'm No the way interview works.

Speaker 1 20:44

Is I set you up for an answer?

Speaker 3 20:45

It's like it's not my own mission, like I'm Oh, i've got to remove those tears away from you. Ok, i really did enjoy it because I was trying to portray a kindler, gentler person And yeah, so do you think you're Till I realize?

Speaker 1 21:12

Sorry go ahead. No, no, no, you go ahead. I interrupted you.

Speaker 3 21:16

I was just saying that I was. You know, i had the way, when we were developing my character and my personality and whatnot, my profile, i tried to be like kindler and gentler person because, as you know, I have you know degree in nursing and I was just like, oh, you know, i'm going to be really nice and kind to you. That started bombing everyone mercilessly And I was like hell, this is not going to go down. Well, so I got to be Yeah.

Speaker 1 21:44

So I just Yeah, my father, your husband, played a barbarian.

Speaker 3 21:51

Oh my husband, when did you find that out? No, it's OK, I'm joking.

Speaker 1 21:56

You have to remember. they can't see you, so so all they do, all they can hear, is, all they experience is you saying these things. So I appreciate you clarifying. I guess they can't see your face.

Speaker 3 22:15

You can do that next time, when I'm all nicely made up which ones for yes and twice for no.

Speaker 1 22:25

Oh, yeah, he's. He's usually a very quiet, sort of reserved gentleman. He gets very worked up when he's talking about cameras, but for the most part he's pretty non confrontational. And he decided to play a barbarian and just fought every person available, fought every NPC that was offered up And yeah, you noted, mom, that you're like I've never seen this side of you before As he decided to constantly rage and then take as many rests as possible to keep bringing that number back up. So you, what aspect of the gameplay did you think was the most fun when we played?

Speaker 3 23:16

The strategy. I would say we had to strategize.

Speaker 1 23:20

Right.

Speaker 3 23:20

And and at some point you do realize that you know you can be like. in India we have a saying that we, you know, like, if don't be, how do I say it? Don't be too tall, because the wind will blow you down. Okay, don't be bored, because the cow will, you know, chew you down. So you have to strike a balance somewhere in the middle. So I really did realize that I had gained some confidence and stuff. you know, being the kind of a gentle person, but it surely was fun watching your dad. So I think next time I'm taking that dude on, you're gonna PVP, you're gonna fight him.

Speaker 1 24:01

Oh, totally, i'll be ready for that. There's nothing like a holiday game in the family like PVP, so that's very good. You have to buy me some more dice. You have two sets now, right I?

Speaker 3 24:14

do. They're the most beautiful ones Yes, gorgeous, and thank you so much for them. Of course, of course, the most beautiful ones Yes, gorgeous, and thank you so much for them.

Speaker 1 24:25

Of course. Of course This show is here because of Daisy Quest, which is a TTRPG featuring all South Asian players. It's set in a South Asian inspired world that Jasmine has crafted. So I wanted to ask you, as someone who's kind of fresh into TTRPGs in general whether that's D&D, Pathfinder, Fate, whatever Fantasy so often is or has been up until recently, in terms of how we interact in the nerd world, like centered in European and Eurocentric sort of medieval fantasy, a lot of like post-Tokyan stuff What is your if you could write fantasy, if you could tell a story in a fantasy universe with magic and stuff, how much of your South Asian background would you bring? Because we have an entire mythology behind, we have a collection of mythologies behind us. What would you bring if you could influence or write a story?

Speaker 3 25:31

Oh my God, I think we taught the world what a fantasy is.

Speaker 1 25:37

That's the most Indian answer I've ever heard. Yeah, please continue.

Speaker 3 25:41

Let's face it. I mean, we have taught the world a lot of things. Yes, so yeah, are all these mythological stories that we have? like? you know, everybody loves Krishna, but why the hell is he blue? I mean, so I don't know why he's blue, but it is a fantasy thing, right? I?

Speaker 3 26:01

mean so I mean all those holy and non-holy books that I grew up with. They all have so much mythological stuff And you can, as a child, you are allowed to let your mind go. You know, and I encouraged as a mother, i really encouraged you guys's creativity, which is why all three of you are so different and yet so similar in that aspect, because you for one, you know you're an author and you write and your imagination is just fantastic. Your brother, middle brother, he's a park ranger. He goes on hugging trees and talking to Don't laugh, he's bigger than you, he could beat you up.

Speaker 1 26:55

I think he's too occupied hugging those trees. And Imran, my youngest sibling they're an artist and they run art galleries And they are a gamer. That's also true.

Speaker 2 27:08

Yeah, yeah, you're right, yeah, yeah, there is the Artistic Spirit of League of Legends of course, of course.

Speaker 1 27:16

So yeah, do you think there?

Speaker 3 27:17

should be. I didn't name that because I wasn't sure if I was allowed to name things.

Speaker 1 27:21

so Do you think there should be more South Asian influence in fantasy stories in the United States of America, considering how many DC storytellers there are?

Speaker 3 27:37

So what I think? because I'm a very independent person and I kind of live my life the way I envision it, and I Without causing grief to other people, of course. So I think that you know it should be out there for people to see, because in my experience, my children, or my Yeah, my boy guys have, you know, had the freedom of choice and they choose whoever they want to be partners with and and they it's their choice to kind of Envision whatever their fantasy is not everybody's fantasies are the same, right, right, right. Yeah, your dad's fantasy is like totally Out there in the electronic universe. Otherwise, how does this guy pull these? you know new designs, you know heartbeat.

Speaker 2 28:35

Yeah, very true Yeah.

Speaker 3 28:37

Yeah, very. I mean we we saw Tron like over times during our early days of dating because it was just like whoa and me being in going through nursing school at the time. And with the clinical psychology I was like this is weird. But then the whole universe changed. Everything became Tron, right, right We came acceptable.

Speaker 1 29:00

So was Tron a date movie for you to.

Speaker 3 29:06

Oh, I would have to think what happened before and after. Okay, so let's move on.

Speaker 1 29:13

I got some questions from chat that I'm gonna let you know. Let's go ahead and bring up these questions from John Harper. I got a question for you How did you become so awesome?

Speaker 3 29:33

John, are you one of my kids that I don't know I had? I love the compliment, honey, And and you're wonderful, I am not. I will just just issue a word of caution right now because I am like those fantasy. You know, goddess Kali, you know the one that her husband's beheaded Skull in her hand. So I can be that. It just depends upon what extent I've been pissed off.

Speaker 1 30:10

Your humility knows no limits. mother, i am not unlike the goddess Kali My name. my name means your majesty. You there, boy, fetch me a beer in the pub.

Speaker 2 30:24

Let me get the crown back.

Speaker 1 30:26

There we go. Do you? can you see that you have a crown on the screen?

Speaker 3 30:30

Yeah, I do. That's beautiful. Where are the earrings? They're missing the earrings. You've got requests.

Speaker 1 30:42

You've got feedback. I didn't realize.

Speaker 3 30:47

I wish I knew it was happening. I would have worn matching clothes.

Speaker 1 30:52

Danny's corner, an incredible artist, not unlike yourself, because you're a very Hey. Has Marla ever played any video games?

Speaker 3 31:05

Yeah, i'm very slow, my reactions are not so fast. So playing them at home with my peeps it would be a disaster because they'd like you know, yeah, they would beat me so much. And I also, i used to play wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. I'm just recalling, in the other course I used to play Mario. Remember I played Mario with you guys And I got dizzy.

Speaker 1 31:37

You're rewriting one of my favorite guild episodes. Yeah, it's, you played Mario Kart, right, it wasn't Mario.

Speaker 2 31:43

Kart.

Speaker 1 31:45

Do you? are you played as?

Speaker 3 31:49

I did. I think that's how I got dizzy, because I just couldn't stand up. Which character which?

Speaker 1 31:55

character are you? Who did you play as you play, as donkey Kong, do you remember?

Speaker 3 32:00

No, i was that blondie girl, my, my altered ego, princess Peach.

Speaker 1 32:08

Yeah, All right, and I've got one last question before we move on, and then we'll, at the end, hop on to back onto a couple more of these questions. But before we move on to our speed round, i've got one question from our good friend Rick Bud, my personal GM for the show. Power play, if you want to check that out.

Speaker 3 32:34

I'm waving. Hello, i need to switch.

Favorite Stories and Debates

Speaker 1 32:37

Yes, I like that you waved to activate the twitching, which is activated by your voice. Also, just so you can connect the dots. Mom, you know that the sticker you have on the fridge of the character I played, the cartoon version of me that I asked for names and stuff like Indian words. That's the show that I was on, that Rick GM. So Rick asked favorite Omar story.

Speaker 3 33:08

Do I want to live, live after I tell the stories or no, actually, correction, i am just all. My stories are always really, really good And he is a perfect. Well, okay, sorry.

Speaker 1 33:28

These are stories to clarify. these are Perfect. Well, wait, hang on.

Speaker 3 33:33

Sorry, I was thinking about another child.

Speaker 1 33:34

I never realized, i was confused.

Speaker 3 33:40

No, no, my God, i would have so many if I knew I was going to be asked because, yeah, all good, i have a really cute one from. We went to reset place. We went in Arizona, you know that fun place, that all the young said don't know. There is story that lady was trying to sell us a property and we had left you guys at the apartment and said don't open the door to anyone, don't talk to anyone.

Speaker 1 34:16

Yeah, i'm share place to rent a place that was on a vortex. Yes, okay, well, good story.

Speaker 3 34:26

And then we realized that we had left you longer than we thought we should have. So we we got up and we wanted to leave. And then your dad said, well, jokingly, gentlemen that he is, he joked that day and said Hey, by the way, people that don't know, omar's dad was raised in UK. So he is, yeah, he's not super desi, yes, he's very British, and anyways. So he said jokingly, he said, well, can I have my 50 bucks back because I didn't attend the whole thing? And the lady got really upset. She goes Well, we didn't ask you to leave, you're leaving. So we said, oh, okay, so it'll be okay to put it in the newspaper that we had to leave there because you wouldn't allow us to bring our kids. And the woman goes Oh, we didn't know you had kids. I said Well, you didn't ask, but you know you did say that no kids. So we took it at that.

Speaker 1 35:23

So anyway, that was like a fun story, but I think your favorite story of me is of you and dad leaving us at a house. Let me quickly just get that straight really quickly, you're okay. So that's a fun. Yeah, that's a real fun story of me.

Speaker 3 35:40

No, it was. It wasn't fun, but I'm just saying that that's the worst I could think of. Was I supposed to say, like the best story, there'd be too many, i'd be here till Kingdom comes?

Speaker 1 35:53

It's a very political cover. I appreciate. I appreciate the the switchback on that. So now that we've covered some questions, now that we've gotten our base in role playing games, we are going to hop over to American born versus Dacey. So on this show we have an ongoing segment where we each pick an American side thing and a Dacey side thing and then we debate them back and forth. You and I are not going to have to debate, i am just going to go through them and I want you to choose which of the two And it's not necessarily just your favorite of the two, but also keep in mind the one you don't choose disappears from the world. It's gone. Does that make sense?

Speaker 3 36:42

Wait, wait, but if, oh, meaning it is like a cumulative thing.

Speaker 1 36:47

No, like you like. If, for example, let me think of one that we haven't done yet Let's say, crackers versus pop it on, okay, and if you chose pop it on, there's no crackers anymore, they're all gone. Trader Joe's doesn't have crackers. You've erased it from existence, so it's a very high stake. Does that make sense?

Speaker 3 37:06

I go from Whole Foods to because they're gone.

Speaker 1 37:09

It would also. That's correct. It would also go from Whole Foods. Yeah, that's correct. So your first one Are you ready for this? Yes, okay. Your first one is Christmas lights versus candles. Candles, you're keeping candles. Yes, christmas lights are gone for forever. Which one do you think the audience voted for to keep?

Speaker 3 37:36

Oh, i don't know. Do they know that I'm a party girl and I like candles?

Speaker 1 37:39

and If they didn't before, they know now, they know now, but that means you can ask this question again anyways, because the lights are.

Speaker 3 37:48

Well, this is, that was previously voted.

Speaker 1 37:50

When we were doing the segment, people did ask Omar, is your mama party girl? Because that will really influence which way we we vote in the poll.

Speaker 3 37:59

You know, but this man you know how to party, because candle lights versus candles, christmas lights, i don't know. I blew up the remember at your brother's Wedding ceremony I had so many lights that I kept blowing the fuse and your dad would get mad at me because I'd put so many lights All around the swimming pool and the tree lights and everything. So, just on the personal, Vengeance I would go with candles.

Speaker 1 38:31

Okay, you are correct, the audience won't with candles. The audience voted candles. They're getting to know me, so also this is previous. These are previously voted. I just so you know. Chai versus coffee What do you pick?

Speaker 3 38:56

You know that's really hard because I've been told to get off caffeine.

Speaker 1 39:00

Okay so. You're picking coffee, mm-hmm, so coffee stays. Chai's gone for forever. Yeah, can I ask why?

Speaker 3 39:17

Because I am not allowed to drink it. So whatever little I can, i keep it with me.

Speaker 1 39:25

Just like As in the necklace like you know little like heart necklace You've got a tiny bit of coffee. You carry that. You just remember what it was like to absorb that.

Speaker 3 39:36

Well, i have some really good handbags too, you know okay, i don't know what that means. I don't understand, i would shove it in my purse, the granules, stealing coffee? No, i wouldn't steal, i went. When I was at Seattle a few days ago, i bought you coffee. Yes or that's because I knew you'd appreciate it and I would miss it.

Speaker 1 40:00

So I okay. Oh, thank you. So you're looking out for me, because I defended coffee. Coffee was my argument. Unfortunately, chat went with Chai, so coffee got erased.

Speaker 3 40:11

Yeah, you know okay. So am I allowed to tell you some anecdotal things?

Speaker 1 40:15

Yeah, you're allowed to tell me some anecdotal things. Is this about you and dad doing a time-share in?

Speaker 3 40:23

No, no, no, no, it's not time-share. Okay when I, when I was a little girl growing up and there was weddings and things at the family.

Speaker 2 40:31

Uh-huh.

Speaker 3 40:32

I was responsible for making the first cold run off Chai, so I said cold run, i did not say a teapot.

Speaker 3 40:43

No this meant I was responsible for hydrating all the oldies, goldies and all the little ones and everyone the chef and the Everybody in the house. Yeah, it was the lowliest creature In the family that had to make the tea because they told me I made the best tea. So I vowed to myself that when I grow up I would never do it to my children and I do it to never do it to myself. So I Won't drink tea. So you know that I'm a coffee fiend right, okay, there we go, there we go.

Speaker 1 41:17

Perfect, so you've got like some familial history behind that?

Speaker 3 41:19

Did you get any people that identified with me? I would be very curious to know, because all Young girls in India get slammed with such duties during weddings and things.

Speaker 1 41:32

Uh, yeah, i can ask if anyone in chat has had that experience. The next one on the list. Actually, let me skip one just because you're talking about how you prepare to cold run of Chai And that's scarred you for life at a wedding. American weddings versus Daisy weddings which one are you picking? You can only pick one. What do you like better?

Speaker 3 41:57

Oh, does it not come with a location?

Speaker 1 42:02

No location. It's like the style of it, like an American style wedding, a daisy style wedding.

Speaker 3 42:09

And style of wedding I'd have to go with with daisy.

Speaker 1 42:14

Yeah, what do you think chat shows?

Speaker 3 42:21

What did I do? was I said again sorry, one more time? What?

Speaker 1 42:24

do you think chat shows They see wedding or American wedding? What do you think one?

Speaker 3 42:28

Jack shows.

Speaker 1 42:30

Yeah, like when people voted.

Speaker 2 42:32

It's what all are talking about chat. He's talking about like the. The viewers were watching the show who are, like, actively chatting with us.

Speaker 1 42:37

Yeah the audience like shorthand the audience.

Speaker 3 42:39

What are the?

Speaker 2 42:39

audience pick.

Speaker 3 42:41

See, he should be in my family. He gets me I.

Speaker 1 42:45

Told them beforehand that my mom would like him more than me. I knew it. I knew it would happen. I knew it would happen.

Speaker 3 42:53

This is why I did not tell any bad stories about you Not that there were any because I did not want you to feel bad and say I have yet another brother in my family now And then my mom doesn't love me.

Speaker 1 43:09

So do you think? do you think people voted to keep American weddings or keep daisy weddings?

Speaker 3 43:13

I think they said they see weddings. I'm a party, you're correct. You're correct.

Speaker 1 43:17

Okay, the ongoing party girl logic applies. Wonderful, wonderful. How about sit tar versus guitar?

Speaker 3 43:26

Oh, depends on who's playing it, if it's a Ravi Shankar or is it George Harrison?

Speaker 1 43:36

Yeah, if it's what? if it's one of your two good friends, ravi Shankar, or your friend Jordan Harrison?

Speaker 3 43:43

You have to choose one other very good friends to. You're getting bono, that's right.

Speaker 1 43:48

Yeah, you hugged and who you delivered to birth. So who, yeah? so of the two, which one do you pick? guitar, sitar Sit down, okay, all right, why?

Speaker 3 44:03

Because I wanted to throw you people off.

Speaker 1 44:06

Okay, it's an exact situation. Chat chose guitar, so sit, tars got just erased, destroyed from time and that was that was close on deep, just so you know. All right, how about this one? this one's gonna this one's gonna be interesting, because I actually don't know how familiar you are with this American football, right, nfl. You used to watch Niners games, you watch the Super Bowl, american football versus gubby.

Speaker 3 44:37

Who plays. Come on D here, i Won't go. If it is like totally, i would go, it's. You know Stanford. Stanford has a huge cricket team.

Speaker 2 44:51

Right, mm-hmm.

Speaker 3 44:52

Stanford has it, fremont has it, all these other neighborhoods have them. I have not heard of come on D.

Speaker 1 45:01

So if you have to choose one, what would you choose?

Speaker 3 45:03

Do you know their uniform?

Speaker 1 45:05

I don't know the company uniform.

Speaker 3 45:07

Okay, i shouldn't say it.

Speaker 1 45:08

I'm your mother, but Okay, which one do you choose?

Speaker 3 45:18

But the people. They dress up like Sumo wrestlers okay. Just a hint to dress down.

Speaker 1 45:24

Okay, really slim down. If you have to choose one American football or cubby.

Speaker 3 45:33

Yeah, I like I have to say American football Okay.

Speaker 1 45:37

Okay, what do you think chat shows? Which one do you think one in the poll?

Speaker 3 45:42

I Think they might have chosen cubby.

Speaker 1 45:45

You're not gonna leave this. It was a tie. It was 50, 50, exactly a tie.

Speaker 3 45:51

Yeah, see, they're beginning to think I'm crazy, so I know it's again, these are old results.

Speaker 1 45:56

You, you're like Hawaii voting, it's like it's like late, like it's it's already set. So really quickly, i'm gonna break with tradition a little bit. Apologies for editors, but just because we've got some TTRPG people up in the mix in chat, we're very complimentary, very wonderful, very creative. One of my favorite systems is lasers and feelings. I wanted to ask which are you, lasers or feelings? lasers is very good at like a Technical things, logical tasks. Feelings is like you're very good at speeches, talking to people. Which one are you, lasers or feelings?

Speaker 1 46:32

feelings okay, that makes sense. That completely checks out.

Speaker 3 46:38

Yeah, you know, i'm in the healthcare business, right.

Speaker 1 46:42

You've mentioned it at least once before in this episode alone, that you have a nursing background and that you deliver and I have really nice feelings for nice, kind people like George Harrison was. Believe you're like. By the end of this episode it will have averaged out that I've heard this story once per year of my life. I've never heard it until today. I didn't know you met George Harrison. I had like DVD concerts of George Harrison and you never were like that's my buddy. I sat next to him.

Speaker 3 47:13

That's because I have them too and I would not want to. And don't forget, i a member of KQED. They sent me free DVDs when I pay my membership.

Speaker 1 47:28

When you pay your membership. That's the, that's the key phrase. Okay, we've got two more for you. Are you ready? Yep, bollywood versus Hollywood which one you keeping? Oh?

Speaker 3 47:39

Oh, i'm getting keeping.

Speaker 1 47:44

Bollywood keeping Bollywood, getting rid of Hollywood. Yeah what's your reasoning?

Speaker 3 47:52

Bollywood has better dancing.

Speaker 1 47:54

There you go. You heard it here first. You heard it first. Fast and furious catch up, get those dancing numbers up. So you're sticking with which one do you think that the audience kept? I?

Speaker 3 48:07

Think they kept Bollywood.

Speaker 1 48:09

Unfortunately, they kept Hollywood.

Speaker 3 48:11

Oh, they did.

Speaker 1 48:12

Yeah, i'm sorry, i'm sorry.

Speaker 3 48:16

Oh, they have to get better choreographers.

Speaker 1 48:19

And This is the final one. I think you already have some opinions on this chutney versus ketchup. What is the superior condiment Which is better? What's a better food pairing chutney or ketchup?

Speaker 3 48:33

So can I? okay, i'm gonna close my books here that I had of the questions. You didn't ask me about my art interest. You didn't ask me about my cinematography. Nevermind, i Want to check these, i would. I would go with chutney, even though there was some defense offered for ketchup.

Speaker 1 49:09

There were a lot of poor defenses offered for ketchup by Sante Yeah.

Speaker 3 49:13

You know, the thing about chutney is that it's very versatile.

Speaker 1 49:17

Yeah, that's what I said.

Speaker 3 49:19

It's very seasonal, It's very aromatic And it is also like the least expected surprise condiment. It's like when you, when we. You know that I'm very fond of cooking other foreign foods too, right, So when I would have Argentinian food and stuff you know I would. I would make, forgetting the name. Now, what is their chutney, called Argentinian one, you know, with S. Anyway, it'll come to me.

Speaker 2 49:51

Okay.

Speaker 3 49:51

I'll tell you Yeah. So yeah, i would. I would keep chutney because it's, it's a huge. Yeah, there's a variety and you can make it, you can freeze it, you can, you know, chill it, you can give it.

Speaker 2 50:06

Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

Speaker 1 50:08

You know, you know who would you give ketchup to Like? imagine, like, oh, a new neighbor, here you go, here's a bottle of ketchup That doesn't seem like a gift?

Speaker 3 50:17

No, it isn't.

Speaker 1 50:18

Would you ever do that? Would you ever give someone just a bottle of ketchup, a Heinz ketchup bottle?

Speaker 3 50:22

No, not, unless I was giving the steak that goes with it.

Speaker 1 50:27

There you go. I mean dining at its best. The audience voted for ketchup in that one.

Speaker 2 50:33

Oh.

Speaker 1 50:34

I'm sorry, i know I'm so sorry. I know.

Speaker 3 50:38

Yeah, i love to cook and I love to make on these condiments and things. Yeah, have you ever made ketchup? I know My mom used to make jam. I have jammed. Mm-hmm, i have not jammed, as in jamming, you know.

Speaker 1 50:53

Music wise with your best friend George Harrison.

Speaker 3 50:55

I hope you like jamming too. Not that jamming.

Speaker 1 50:58

Okay.

Speaker 3 50:59

That's a good thing to find, yeah, so why can't I recall that, my favorite condiment from Argentina?

Speaker 1 51:08

I'm just feeling really bad, well we'll have to have you back, i suppose, to figure out which condiment that is. We are going to wrap up in a second. but, as you mentioned, you are an artist And you know we talk a lot on the show about what it's like to be an artist and to explore your identity and your cultural identity through art. So I just wanted to throw you a quick little question of how much do you think your South Asian identity has affected your art And then, with a little follow-up, do you think that sometimes it can be a little confining that people see you as a South Asian artist and not just an artist artist?

Speaker 3 51:50

Oh yeah, that's the. Both of those questions are really good questions And, by the way, i took that line from you because you say it sometimes and it sounds so good, so thanks.

Speaker 1 52:04

So you didn't mean it, No.

Speaker 3 52:07

I'm joking, So reason. okay, I will tell you very, very quickly. I'm just going to put that in the comments and I will be sure to do that. I'm sure you've seen it a lot of times. running out and our guests have arrived, So I should be out there serving dinner.

Speaker 1 52:22

That's keeping them company by the way, so Mitanti is here with Sibashanko.

Speaker 3 52:27

I love on the podcast, you to sing their names.

Speaker 1 52:31

Yeah, that's not the real names. Okay, there you go. That's your second really good cover up of the episode.

Speaker 3 52:46

This is, don't Be a Maze, it is dude like that, and maybe introducing that to Acala Khan yeah, it is Suniz 가선 세� 뛴60ن по undermine, shameful. It is not the old dude, you're the guy that I really like and I don't believe that. that thatとか is just that Position. That onebene balancing that task. Oh, again, theputin is definitely the one coming or the other 8 probability, educated and is respected offers this ceremony to this child, who is probably around two or three. Okay, They, they, yeah. So you buy a new slate, you know, because that's what we used to use as a. You know, we didn't have iPads and things at that time. So you actually they, they teach you, they write, they hold your hand and they write the alphabet and the numeric numbers and things.

Speaker 3 53:36

And they bless you with the knowledge and all of that. So that is that is. it's a big thing that that is done. Bengalis do it for sure, and I think the others may do it also. So so it starts from there, and you, you literally watch so much art and literature and stuff around your home which is, you know, and it's not like how shall I say it? It's not like fake, it's genuine. you know, like we have designs for certain days of the week because we appease certain gods with certain patterns and their chakras and things you know. So, so, yeah, so I tried to incorporate that in my art And when, when I teach my classes, i always ask the students to actually take two minutes to just calm. and you know, like, are you?

Speaker 3 54:36

yeah, what a shame you can't see my hands. You center yourself and you, you literally not pray, but you ask for a blessing that what you're about to learn today would be useful to you in the future and that you would get fun and joy from it. And I have started to incorporate it very recently with some of the classes that I teach for the seniors, because I think that for them too, because they get anxious, thinking that, oh my God, what is she going to teach today And will I be capable of doing a good job or not?

Speaker 3 55:10

So, if you say prayer and it's like a mantra, you know you don't have to repeat anything, you don't have to chant it or anything, you just just calm yourself and say Hey, miss Marla's, here we're going to have a great time, and so what if it isn't to my satisfaction, meaning their satisfaction.

Speaker 1 55:31

Yeah, i love that because I feel like when people talk about their cultural backgrounds and how they affect their art, a lot of it is very about the aesthetic. A lot of it is very about, like, the actual content of it, not necessarily like, like what you're saying, the practice, the philosophy of it. It doesn't matter what ends up on the canvas, it is about the artist, right.

Speaker 1 55:51

It's about who you are, and you have brought a practice from your background that influences how you make art. It's not just the product, it's not what's consumed, it's how you do it. So since we're getting close to time, I'm just going to ask you if you can think of a one sentence piece of advice to give to artists across all disciplines, across the board. one sentence what's a piece of advice you give to people? It doesn't have to be like from a South Asian perspective, It can just be anything. What's your one piece of advice?

Speaker 3 56:23

Your premise is so wrong because you've limited me to just one sentence. Don't you know I could have written like four chapters of Bhagavad Gita on that. I'm not being disrespectful. My advice to artists in any form of practice, whether you're a teacher, you're a learner, you just like to doodle or you'd like to scribble, just bring joy into it. It's like my other body, yes, joy of painting the member. After summer swimming lessons, what did we do? We brought our sandwiches. Tv and we would. Did we watch?

Speaker 1 57:07

Bob Ross.

Speaker 3 57:08

Thank you, joy of painting.

Speaker 2 57:11

Is that where you met Bob Ross?

Speaker 3 57:17

I'm not kidding you, we that was our Ritual in during the summer we would attend our swimming lessons, we'd come back home. It didn't, it didn't matter if I had to bring back eight, nine, ten kids with me because their parents had other things going on. We would make sandwiches, we would sit down and we would watch Bob Ross and and those kids still Run into me at stores and things and they go. Miss Marla, i have to tell you that I love Drawing, i love sketching, and that was just so much fun that we used to do and that was one way of Keeping all these guys shout quiet, you know. So, yeah, so, have fun, enjoy it. It's not about perfection, it's not about, i mean, think about all the artists that went into like crazy. You know Interpretations of art, which was not. You know The castle, i mean, okay, so you know that I've broken my arm and I wouldn't be able to paint for a while.

Speaker 1 58:20

My mom is recently broken her arm, unfortunately.

Speaker 3 58:22

Yes, Sorry, yes, but so you know that Auntie Caroline, she my best friend from England. She came and she supported me and she says you have to change your name because you're going to be Jackie Pulaski, because you're going to just take the brush, splash the paint all over. So I'm going to be Jackson Pollock, you know so. So it's the joy of what you can do and you can do, and I'm learning to write with my left hand And I know it's not a great print printing Work, i mean I would have.

Speaker 3 59:03

I would have torn your homework and tossed it in the garbage if you had written it like that, because We're, they see, family. If everything has to be really good, yeah, so yeah. But anyways, my, my one advice is have fun with it. How many sentences was what that?

Speaker 1 59:21

Yeah. Yeah, that was a falter sense, don't worry about it.

Speaker 3 59:28

I need to get out from the next show.

Speaker 1 59:31

Oh, you think, well, we'll take the time out from the next show. You, yeah, you're reclaiming the next episode's time, i see.

Speaker 3 59:38

I'm hoping I did my best.

Speaker 1 59:43

Well, i'm gonna do a really quick sign out and then We'll sort of close this part out. But, mom, i just want to say a huge Thank you for joining us today. What an absolute pleasure to spend. We've talked about a bunch of stuff, cut a lot of topics. How do you feel about it? How do you feel about your first episode on ABCD?

Therapeutic and Fun Conversation With Host

Speaker 3 59:59

I Loved it. This was so therapeutic for me. Rather than sitting there going, i've got to, you know, wiggle my fingers and worry about this or that. So thank you for giving me joy, thank you for giving me beauty, and I had a lot of fun. Yeah, i did so.

Speaker 1 1:00:25

I think we'll definitely have you back, because I think you do want to argue with Sundeep on a couple of those of this points, of those votes, right.

Speaker 3 1:00:34

The Japanese. He was right on several points. You know, i'm just, you guys are all my children and I, you know, and I know you guys are all adults and it should not be put down as children. But you know, sometimes I just like to do it for fun, so You know.

Speaker 1 1:00:55

So yeah, good, all right, i'm gonna do this sign out and then I'll let you go be a be a wonderful, gracious host. So if you can bear with me for just a couple seconds just to close out the podcast, that's the show, as always, if you want to see our lovely faces, all the VOD and other ways you can hang out with us Are in the show notes. Please write and comment. It really, really helps us out. Go to a podcast, a Service of your choice. Leave us a rating, leave us a comment So other people can discover the podcast. Comment suggestions, feedback can be sent to ABCD podcast show at gmailcom or you can hop on our discord. There you can go for our podcast schedule and also These requests is coming up at the end of summer.

Speaker 1 1:01:37

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Speaker 2 1:02:30

I see what you were.

Speaker 1 1:02:31

I see what you went for. We have different instincts, i suppose. Yeah, give me a beat and then you hitting the double. It was a different sort of thing. Getting the dandy of sticks is a different type of thing that I expected. But thank you to the patreon's who put money in our bank, which includes Joshua Ryan, tom BM Carlo, who's? Zach Benjamin low Brandon, pace hunter, p Brown, legion 247, miranda Hollinger, vaden, michael long. The show is produced by Diego, and now the show's technical director and sound designer is Dalvin Neville, who also made sure that my mom was able to join us today. The shows executive producers are Sunday Perican and on Shaw. This is edited by Sean meager. Thank you to our incredible composers on this show. This has been an effin funny production. On behalf of your host, me, your co-host son deep, who is out traveling the world, and your guest host Marlon Nijam, may your chakras be aligned and smothered in chutney.

Speaker 2 1:03:24

All right. And then here's where, sean, we're still live to twitch, but no one else will know what we're talking about. And there it is. There it is well.

Speaker 1 1:03:32

You have to. You have to dash off and do some dinner stuff, right, mom?

Speaker 3 1:03:36

No, I want to say something to.

Speaker 1 1:03:39

Everyone. Okay, you're still. Just so you know you're still on the internet. Oh, no, no, no.

Speaker 3 1:03:44

I can't.

Speaker 2 1:03:45

Wait what are you I?

Speaker 3 1:03:50

Can't tell you that one It's.

Speaker 2 1:03:55

Do you, do you want to do you want to take a few questions from chat?

Speaker 1 1:04:00

Marla, do you need to?

Speaker 3 1:04:02

I'm gonna call you on Omar's cell phone. Take my call. It's really chill, it's. It's you love your head off. It's really fun.

Speaker 1 1:04:10

I mean, hold on, what's the logic of this? Well, let's take Really quick, let's see We will get. We'll take two to three questions from chat really quickly, but you, you're gonna call me on my phone. How's Yeah?

Speaker 3 1:04:25

how's you hear it?

Speaker 1 1:04:28

Pardon is you? So wait, what do you? what do you want? Do you? do you want to send me a message and I can put it? I can send it privately in discord.

Speaker 3 1:04:41

No oh my god, listen, i am going to call you on your phone.

Speaker 1 1:04:47

Uh-huh, and you're gonna put it to them.

Speaker 3 1:04:52

Yes, and Devon's gonna call you.

Speaker 2 1:04:58

We're not the internet. We could just talk in this control room.

Speaker 1 1:05:09

I've never had a game of telephone, actually the telephone that was Wild. Danny's corner says feel better soon. Omar's mom, we got from dodeca. Wonderful and hilarious dream. Rick says thank you for hanging out with us.

Speaker 2 1:05:25

Danny asked can Marla adopt all of us? actually, that's my next question.

Speaker 1 1:05:29

Yes, yes, that's the yeah, that's the question. What do you think, mom?

Speaker 3 1:05:34

Yeah, i'm thinking that because I'm 65, i need a new job once I retire.

Speaker 2 1:05:40

I.

Speaker 3 1:05:41

Adopting grown-up children is perfect. I would totally do it.

Speaker 2 1:05:46

All right, all right.

Speaker 3 1:05:59

They can call me if they ever need any motherly auntie Lee advice I'm I'll be totally.

Speaker 2 1:06:05

Happy also the always delightful enthusiasm Amy Dallin Said if we're submitting more questions, I would not object to it. More info on the Rod Stewart story.

Meeting Rod Stewart and Lilith Fair

Speaker 1 1:06:15

Yeah, let's do yeah, yeah, yeah, 100%. Let's do that, let's do that. Yeah, what, what? yeah, what. When did you meet Rod Stewart? I?

Speaker 3 1:06:26

Met Rod Stewart at a hot rod concert. Do you need to know more? I met him again. I met him again mountain view at the Shoreline Theatre and I yelled out that I met you at that place and He actually invited me back to meet him. But it was. I was little too white for it. Yes, i went to, i went. I used to go to the Shoreline right for the Lilith Fair and all of that Yeah, yeah. Yeah, tell me you don't know that I used to go no again.

Speaker 1 1:07:00

This is real Bay Area specific stuff.

Speaker 3 1:07:01

Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:07:03

Yeah, so you met Rod Stewart twice.

Speaker 3 1:07:08

Yes, and Rod Stewart like, who used to come to all our girls parties many times a.

Speaker 1 1:07:15

Rod Stewart look alike.

Speaker 3 1:07:17

No, the real one twice.

Speaker 1 1:07:19

Okay, yes, okay, okay.

Speaker 2 1:07:22

How many times did you meet the look alike?

Speaker 3 1:07:26

How many girlfriends did I have that got married and had hand parties? Let me think.

Speaker 1 1:07:35

Can you imagine really quick? just I just want to just stop and entertain the idea, like, imagine, like being Like. I'm trying to think about the equivalent now would be of like your, a look alike, that goes to like bachelet parties, but just being like. I look so similar to Rod Stewart and someone's like. You're never gonna believe this is a huge business opportunity, i know exactly the job.

Speaker 3 1:07:56

I Wanted to go to the Pesh mode. Do you know what they charge for their tickets now? No, I don't oh my god, it's expensive. I was like, oh, i need to take another job. I think yeah, but they're me asking.

Speaker 1 1:08:12

Amy was asking wait Sorry, lilith Fair. What year do you remember what year you went to Lilith Fair?

Speaker 3 1:08:17

Yes, I could tell you I was. I used to work at parents helping parents. I want to see what's No, no, no, no who performed? It was at the other. Yes, it was a shoreline theater.

Speaker 1 1:08:32

No, no, no, but you remember who performed. Do you remember who the musicians were?

Speaker 3 1:08:36

Yeah, oh my god.

Speaker 2 1:08:39

Wait, do you? can we know?

Speaker 3 1:08:48

Is the organizer of it. I mean she has the ownership of it, right?

Speaker 1 1:08:53

and you saw, yeah.

Speaker 3 1:08:55

Yes, i saw. Yeah, ice cream. You've got to listen to ice cream and if you don't know it, google it and listen to it all night.

Speaker 1 1:09:05

I Think this song is called. I think the song is called chocolate. Let me.

Speaker 3 1:09:13

That was our code as ice cream. Okay, never mind, then you know it.

Speaker 1 1:09:17

No, it is I. You're correct, you're correct, i'm wrong, I'm wrong You're correct. It's called Uh better than it's called ice cream, but according to Google it's just called ice, and I don't, i don't believe that's true.

Speaker 3 1:09:28

It's on fumbling towards ecstasy right. Yeah, we yell at. When we yell at her, we say ice cream, so that's what we need to. And then there was, there was this comedian chick whatever her name was, i forget now. Yeah, there were there were a lot of ones, but she was the main one that we went to see. And yeah, okay.

Speaker 1 1:09:49

So let me see if we can actually backdate this. Let's just see if we can do this. I'm just gonna search Sarah McLaughlin.

Speaker 3 1:09:55

I do believe I have a shirt I made of ash.

Speaker 1 1:10:01

A shirt of ash.

Speaker 3 1:10:02

Yeah, her partner.

Speaker 1 1:10:04

Oh, oh, okay, Okay, that okay, got it, got it Um. Did you go in 1997?

Speaker 3 1:10:12

No, What is? there is none after that. I don't. I'm trying to find the Lineup in the crowd there that that was at the Lilith Fair.

Speaker 1 1:10:25

I I can ask hey anyone on Twitch Were you at Lilith Fair between 1997 and 1999? Give us an F and chat If you were there. Epson chat if you were at Lilith Fair between 97 and 99. Mountain view specifically at the shoreline.

Speaker 3 1:10:48

That was the venue open air, yeah.

Speaker 1 1:10:52

July 8th. I Want, I think that's it.

Speaker 2 1:10:56

I think that's late Mountain View, charlotte at the theater.

Speaker 1 1:10:58

I ate, did you say. Was it right around your birthday? Paula Cole was there. Tracy Chapman was there.

Speaker 3 1:11:06

Yes, Tracy Chapman there.

Speaker 1 1:11:09

Was there. Oh Lordy was, was that? it does that sound? did you see, julian concert?

Speaker 3 1:11:16

I Must have been. Don't ask me to remember too much.

Speaker 1 1:11:20

Okay, do you remember Tracy Chapman? You remember Tracy Chapman Of?

Speaker 3 1:11:24

course I remember Tracy Chapman.

Speaker 1 1:11:26

No, but did you see Tracy Chapman a concert? I don't mean do you recall, Yeah, but do you? did you? Did you see and or meet Tracy Chapman at a concert?

Speaker 3 1:11:38

I did not meet her. I might have yeah, she might have been at the concert.

Speaker 1 1:11:44

We might have cracked it, perfect, but let me see if there's anything else in chat before we let you go.

Speaker 2 1:11:50

Oh, yeah, Danny was asking What you thought about the D&D movie.

Speaker 1 1:11:55

Have you seen it yet? Have you seen the D&D movie with Chris Pine, michelle Rodriguez? I?

Speaker 3 1:12:01

saw him at. Yeah, i wait now I've not seen the movies. The one word answer because you guys are running out of time. And But I saw Chris Pine at, jimmy, remember, i saw him and I messaged you Because you're hanging out with Lou. He was hanging out with Lou, Yeah he's hanging out with Lou. Wilson sword. Yeah, one of these days we're gonna go walk down that path and go say hi to him.

Speaker 1 1:12:30

You want to do? you want to go see Jimmy Kimmel when you're in LA next time.

Speaker 3 1:12:32

Oh, Yeah, baby.

Speaker 1 1:12:34

Yeah.

Speaker 3 1:12:35

Yeah, it'll be fun. It'll be fun.

Speaker 1 1:12:37

Do you have anything you want to say to Lou? I can pass that on personally.

Speaker 3 1:12:43

Yeah, tell him that I love his introductions.

Speaker 1 1:12:46

Great, i'll give him that very formal compliment.

Speaker 3 1:12:51

I Don't want to upset him before he meets me.

Speaker 1 1:12:55

That's your blanket really safe? You don't want to say anything controversial to Lou Wilson? Great, so was it you really? you really like his introductions? I mean, it's cheerful. Yeah, of course, yeah great. Great. He's a very cheerful guy. He's got great energy, perfect. Well, great, we'll let you go so you can host the folks who you said were fake names, but just everyone knows those are definitely real names. That's our family friends that are visiting. But, mom, thank you very much for joining us.

Speaker 3 1:13:29

Yeah, please notice, i did not verify that. I did not. I did not verify. If you're spreading a rumor, it's on you.

Speaker 1 1:13:40

We'll close this out because apparently my mom and Delvin have to have a private conversation. All right you want to give us a solid.

Speaker 2 1:13:48

Bye to chat.

Speaker 1 1:13:49

All right, bye everybody. Thank you so much for joining us, thank you for watching, thank you for wonderful comments and chat. Thank you for supporting the show And for being here for a very special episode for me, because I got this is my mom's first time on twitch. This is the first time I think I've done like an internet thing with my mom in general at all. Um, so thank you very much. This has been very special for me and very wonderful, and it's so great to see all of our friends In chat. It's so wonderful to get that support.

Shout Outs and Gratitude

Speaker 1 1:14:13

Uh, i want to say head over to Q times to check out an incredible show. Um, that is Two of the best detectives, it's just the most. It's the greatest detective show you could possibly get just injected into your veins. Uh, it's exactly my type of pulp Run by the wonderful rick bud to check that out. Um, and I also want to give a shout out to salt and serpents Over on pixel circus is a whole ecosystem that we have here on twitch So many good shows where you don't have to choose content, you just get to absorb it all and get it. So I just want to give shout outs to those two shows. And mom, is there anything you want to shout out? any artists that people should check out?

Speaker 3 1:14:53

I want to say thank you for inviting me and brightening my evening. It was so much fun.

Speaker 2 1:15:01

The pleasure was all out.

Speaker 3 1:15:03

So sooner. If I had realized, i would have brought you both.

Speaker 1 1:15:13

Wonderful, all right. Well, we'll let you go, mom. I will let you go chat everybody. Have a wonderful week and we'll see you next time. Bye, thank you, mylings.